Ways To Control Anger
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by: tarynbrava
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I guess we have all let our anger get the best of us. Maybe said something that we have regretted saying after the fact? How many times has this happened to you? It is normal to lose your temper every now and then. We are humans, afterall. But there are ways to gain control over your anger instead of letting it have control over you. It's not always easy to do this, especially if you are provoked into a combative situation. The next time you feel yourself welling up with anger, try these simple steps to overcome your feelings.
n1. Identify what makes you upset in the first place. nnStart with identifying what upsets your feelings or emotions. Pull yourself aside from everything you are doing or the anger situation you are in, then take a deep breathe and clear your mind. Think, what brought you into this situation.nnYou need to know what is wrong in order to correct it.
2. Use them as a stop signalnnWhen you are done with Step 1, you'd probably already knew what made you angry. You might not have the complete clear idea of it, but it's OK. At least you have "some" ideas.nnUse these as stop signs for your anger. You're upset because the little voices inside your head are telling yourself upsetting things. This in return causes a stir in your feelings, therefore resulting in anger.nnStop all these little voices from talking within yourself, and you'll be able to think independantly and not being influenced by them and the situation.
n3. Tell yourself positive thingsnnIt's important to think positive. You can counteract your upsetting thoughts with framing your mind to have a positive self-message. Tell yourself something nice that will make you feel better.nnFor instance, "this anger feeling is only temporary and I don't want to say or do something stupid which I will regret for my actions later." nnPut the brakes on your feelings. Tell yourself to slow down and take it easy.
n4. Make yourself clarify the situation for yourself. Ask yourself, “What is really going on in this situation?" nnYou can then feel disappointed with the situation but not enraged at the people who are creating it.
5. Think of constructive goalsnnTry to set more realistic goals for yourself in regard to the problem situation that you are in. nnAsk yourself, “What are the alternative solutions that I use to resolve this situation?" nnBe specific as possible, and concrete. nn"What can you do to change this situation?" nnList out the constructive options that you have in mind in which to reach your goals. nnAsk yourself, "What constructive actions can I take to reach my goals?" nnFinally, choose a constructive option to reach your goal and act fast on it.
nnThe 5 simple steps that I had just pointed out to you are exactly what I do whenever I face with anger situations. You can try them out when you face with such situations.nnEveryone gets angry at times, but the important thing is, "What can you do to overcome this situation?". nnGain control of your anger, rather than letting it control you.
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Taryn Brava has worked in the field of sleep medicine for nearly 20 years. Learn about sleep apnea and the treatment options available.
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